Celebrity couples who have been together for decades, including Nick Offerman and Megan Mullally, James Brolin and Barbra Streisand, and Mary Steenburger and Ted Danson, share their best advice on how to keep the spark alive. Some is serious, some is silly — and all is key to a long, happy marriage.
01of 49Nick Offerman: ‘Don’t Take Life Too Seriously’meganomullally/InstagramOfferman, who celebrated his 20th anniversary with Megan Mullally in September 2023, shared on theToday Showthat constantly working on oneself — with a sense of humor the whole time — has been key to their happy marriage.“First and foremost it’s a sense of humor,” he said when asked for their secret. “Like any relationship, we’ve had to learn to listen to each other. I’ve had to learn to wash myself, do the dishes, close the refrigerator door. By and large, don’t take life too seriously, be a giver more than a taker, and do the dishes.”
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Nick Offerman: ‘Don’t Take Life Too Seriously’
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Offerman, who celebrated his 20th anniversary with Megan Mullally in September 2023, shared on theToday Showthat constantly working on oneself — with a sense of humor the whole time — has been key to their happy marriage.
“First and foremost it’s a sense of humor,” he said when asked for their secret. “Like any relationship, we’ve had to learn to listen to each other. I’ve had to learn to wash myself, do the dishes, close the refrigerator door. By and large, don’t take life too seriously, be a giver more than a taker, and do the dishes.”
02of 49Bono: Encourage Honesty, Even When it ‘Hurts’Bono, Ali Hewson.Vanni Bassetti/GettyThe U2 frontman recently wrote his memoirSurrender:40 Songs, One Story,and shared that his wife of 40 years, Ali Hewson, was his first reader and critic, even when he had written things that might be tough for her to read — because he valued her honest feedback.“Ali will remember things I’ve half-remembered and remind me of conversations I’ve almost forgotten,” he told PEOPLE. “She’s been in all the important scenes in my life since I was a teenager and she’ll often have a better view of my life than I do. She’s my witness. I’m hers. That hurts sometimes.”
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Bono: Encourage Honesty, Even When it ‘Hurts’
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The U2 frontman recently wrote his memoirSurrender:40 Songs, One Story,and shared that his wife of 40 years, Ali Hewson, was his first reader and critic, even when he had written things that might be tough for her to read — because he valued her honest feedback.
“Ali will remember things I’ve half-remembered and remind me of conversations I’ve almost forgotten,” he told PEOPLE. “She’s been in all the important scenes in my life since I was a teenager and she’ll often have a better view of my life than I do. She’s my witness. I’m hers. That hurts sometimes.”
03of 49James Brolin: Be a Master NegotiatorRon Galella/Ron Galella Collection"I think everybody needs to be a negotiator," the actor told PEOPLE about the secrets to makinghis 25-year marriage to the legendary divawork. “Everybody needs to have patience and know when to take a walk.”
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James Brolin: Be a Master Negotiator
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“I think everybody needs to be a negotiator,” the actor told PEOPLE about the secrets to makinghis 25-year marriage to the legendary divawork. “Everybody needs to have patience and know when to take a walk.”
04of 49Julia Roberts: Design Your Bathroom WiselyJulia Roberts and Danny Moder.Kevin Mazur/GettyThe actress, who celebrated her 20th anniversary with husband Danny Moder in 2022, told Jess Cagle on his Sirius XM show that her trick to a long-lasting marriage is very simple: “Two bathroom sinks and lots of kissing.”
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Julia Roberts: Design Your Bathroom Wisely
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The actress, who celebrated her 20th anniversary with husband Danny Moder in 2022, told Jess Cagle on his Sirius XM show that her trick to a long-lasting marriage is very simple: “Two bathroom sinks and lots of kissing.”
05of 49Judy Collins: Sleep in Different RoomsJudy Collins and Louis Nelson.Amy Graves/WireImageThe singer-songwriter and her husband have been married for 18 years, and Collins credits that partly to sleeping apart. “It’s the snoring!” shetells PEOPLE.Still, the pair spend lots of quality time together. “We do all kinds of things and are always together. He’s just an amazing person,” she tells PEOPLE. “We love to walk, and we’ve walked Central Park and along the Hudson River a lot in the past couple of years. We love to go to the movies and to the theater. We love to go to museums, and we love socializing with our friends. We do this as much as possible.”
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Judy Collins: Sleep in Different Rooms
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The singer-songwriter and her husband have been married for 18 years, and Collins credits that partly to sleeping apart. “It’s the snoring!” shetells PEOPLE.
Still, the pair spend lots of quality time together. “We do all kinds of things and are always together. He’s just an amazing person,” she tells PEOPLE. “We love to walk, and we’ve walked Central Park and along the Hudson River a lot in the past couple of years. We love to go to the movies and to the theater. We love to go to museums, and we love socializing with our friends. We do this as much as possible.”
06of 49Ree Drummond: ‘Always Touch Feet At Night"Monica Schipper/GettyOnValentine’s Day 2022, the Pioneer Womanshared three simple secretsto keeping one’s marriage as strong as hers is: “1. Listen to each other. 2. Touch feet in bed right before you go to sleep, even if you’re mad. 3. Never, ever ski together. ❤️ Well, it’s a start, anyway!“It’s not the first time she’s offered up her foot-touching tis;she previously told PEOPLEthat it’s key to reconnecting after a fight: “Even if one of us a little bit miffed, and or if someone’s not feeling it…if our feet touch, I always know, ‘Okay, it’s all good.'”
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Ree Drummond: ‘Always Touch Feet At Night”
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OnValentine’s Day 2022, the Pioneer Womanshared three simple secretsto keeping one’s marriage as strong as hers is: “1. Listen to each other. 2. Touch feet in bed right before you go to sleep, even if you’re mad. 3. Never, ever ski together. ❤️ Well, it’s a start, anyway!”
It’s not the first time she’s offered up her foot-touching tis;she previously told PEOPLEthat it’s key to reconnecting after a fight: “Even if one of us a little bit miffed, and or if someone’s not feeling it…if our feet touch, I always know, ‘Okay, it’s all good.'”
07of 49Ayesha & Stephen Curry: Keep DatingDimitrios Kambouris/GettyTen years into their marriage, theGolden State Warriorsstar and cookbook author have some tried-and-true tricks forkeeping things “spicy.“Speaking toAccess Hollywood, they shared how they keep their spark alive.“For us, it’s just not forgetting to date each other, make the time to get dressed up and go out and do all the things. That’s what keeps it spicy,” Ayesha said.“I’m just hanging out and admiring you, and seeing how beautiful she looks,” added the three-time NBA champion. “If you keep it spicy like that then I think that’s how we got 10 years and hopefully 10 years more.”
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Ayesha & Stephen Curry: Keep Dating
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Ten years into their marriage, theGolden State Warriorsstar and cookbook author have some tried-and-true tricks forkeeping things “spicy.”
Speaking toAccess Hollywood, they shared how they keep their spark alive.
“For us, it’s just not forgetting to date each other, make the time to get dressed up and go out and do all the things. That’s what keeps it spicy,” Ayesha said.
“I’m just hanging out and admiring you, and seeing how beautiful she looks,” added the three-time NBA champion. “If you keep it spicy like that then I think that’s how we got 10 years and hopefully 10 years more.”
08of 49Wendi McLendon-Covey: Skip Valentine’s DayVivien Killilea/WireImageThe key to a lasting marriage? According toThe Goldbergsactress, it’sskipping Valentine’s Day celebrations.On a February 2022 appearance onLive with Kelly and Ryan, McLendon-Covey revealed that she and her husband of 25 years have never celebrated the romantic holiday.“Listen, I’ve been married 25 years, just like [Ripa],” she said. “And here we are 25 years later, not celebrating Valentine’s Day, which is the key to a lasting marriage.“The actress previously told PEOPLE, “We don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day because what’s the point? Every day is pretty good, you know?”
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Wendi McLendon-Covey: Skip Valentine’s Day
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The key to a lasting marriage? According toThe Goldbergsactress, it’sskipping Valentine’s Day celebrations.
On a February 2022 appearance onLive with Kelly and Ryan, McLendon-Covey revealed that she and her husband of 25 years have never celebrated the romantic holiday.
“Listen, I’ve been married 25 years, just like [Ripa],” she said. “And here we are 25 years later, not celebrating Valentine’s Day, which is the key to a lasting marriage.”
The actress previously told PEOPLE, “We don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day because what’s the point? Every day is pretty good, you know?”
09of 49Henry Winkler: Listen WellKevin Mazur/GettyThe actor has been married to his wife Stacey since hisHappy Daysyears, crediting their 45-year marriage to something very simple: being a good listener.“I have to tell you something. I truly believe the ear is the center of all relationships. It’s not the heart, it’s not the mind, it’s the ear,“theBarryactor once toldParademagazine.“Listening is the beginning and the end.”
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Henry Winkler: Listen Well
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The actor has been married to his wife Stacey since hisHappy Daysyears, crediting their 45-year marriage to something very simple: being a good listener.
“I have to tell you something. I truly believe the ear is the center of all relationships. It’s not the heart, it’s not the mind, it’s the ear,“theBarryactor once toldParademagazine.“Listening is the beginning and the end.”
10of 49Sacha Baron Cohen: Keep Things PlayfulSacha Baron Cohen and Isla Fisher.Rick Rycroft/APThe comedic couple — who have been together since 2001 and married since 2010 — have often quipped about the key to their longevity. In celebration of their 20th anniversary, Cohen joked onInstagram, “Happy Anniversary my love. I’m writing this rather than getting you a card. Our duration is largely due to our location - after all Hollywood is the bastion of lengthy marriages.“Wife Isla Fisher gave similar insight into their long-lasting love in aprevious anniversary post,writing, “A lot of people have asked me the secret to our longevity, and I say; it’s all in the synchronized snacking technique.”
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Sacha Baron Cohen: Keep Things Playful
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The comedic couple — who have been together since 2001 and married since 2010 — have often quipped about the key to their longevity. In celebration of their 20th anniversary, Cohen joked onInstagram, “Happy Anniversary my love. I’m writing this rather than getting you a card. Our duration is largely due to our location - after all Hollywood is the bastion of lengthy marriages.”
Wife Isla Fisher gave similar insight into their long-lasting love in aprevious anniversary post,writing, “A lot of people have asked me the secret to our longevity, and I say; it’s all in the synchronized snacking technique.”
11of 49Martina McBride: Like Each Other!Jason Davis/GettyThe country star says the secret to her 30-plus-year-marriage is very simple: She really likes her husband John!“It really helps if you find someone you like, not just love,” she tells PEOPLE, adding that it feels especially important now that their kids are older. “I’m glad we like each other, because when you’re at your empty nest at the end of the day, it’s important to have somebody who you can just be silent with.”
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Martina McBride: Like Each Other!
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The country star says the secret to her 30-plus-year-marriage is very simple: She really likes her husband John!
“It really helps if you find someone you like, not just love,” she tells PEOPLE, adding that it feels especially important now that their kids are older. “I’m glad we like each other, because when you’re at your empty nest at the end of the day, it’s important to have somebody who you can just be silent with.”
12of 49William Daniels: Celebrate the Other’s StrengthsBonnie Bartlett and William Daniels.David Livingston/Getty ImagesTheBoy Meets Worldactor, who has been married to college sweetheart (and fellow actor) Bonnie Bartlett for more than 70 years, says that basking in the glow of her talent has always been enough for him.“I think our relationship is based on mutual respect,“he toldForbes. “I think she is smarter than me, a better actor than me, and so I just hang on, you know, and try to get along,”
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William Daniels: Celebrate the Other’s Strengths
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TheBoy Meets Worldactor, who has been married to college sweetheart (and fellow actor) Bonnie Bartlett for more than 70 years, says that basking in the glow of her talent has always been enough for him.
“I think our relationship is based on mutual respect,“he toldForbes. “I think she is smarter than me, a better actor than me, and so I just hang on, you know, and try to get along,”
13of 49Samuel L. Jackson: Practice EmpathySteve Granitz/WireImageThe actor, who celebrated 40 years of marriage with his wife LaTanya Richardson Jackson in August 2020, said that he didn’t buy the speculation that Hollywood marriages were more likely to face challenges than the average union.“People say, Oh, the temptations are greater,” he said, before pointing out that all marriages are about commitment: “Being mature enough at a certain point to say to yourself, How would that other person feel if I gave into this desire? Marriage changes the dynamic of how we perceive ourselves, because we have to start thinking of someone else. The selfishness of who you are has to be subjugated.”
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Samuel L. Jackson: Practice Empathy
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The actor, who celebrated 40 years of marriage with his wife LaTanya Richardson Jackson in August 2020, said that he didn’t buy the speculation that Hollywood marriages were more likely to face challenges than the average union.
“People say, Oh, the temptations are greater,” he said, before pointing out that all marriages are about commitment: “Being mature enough at a certain point to say to yourself, How would that other person feel if I gave into this desire? Marriage changes the dynamic of how we perceive ourselves, because we have to start thinking of someone else. The selfishness of who you are has to be subjugated.”
14of 49Ralph Macchio: Commitment Is KeyRalph Macchio and his wife, Phyllis.Gilbert Carrasquillo/FilmmagicThe actor credits wife of 30-plus years Phyllis Fierro for allowing him to find the right balance between acting and family time. And he says the secret to their decades-spanning union is very simple.“It’s the belief through the easy times, through the tough times, whatever we encounter, that we are meant to be together,“he told PEOPLE. “We know that we will overcome all because we believe in that, the foundation of that.”
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Ralph Macchio: Commitment Is Key
Ralph Macchio and his wife, Phyllis.Gilbert Carrasquillo/Filmmagic
The actor credits wife of 30-plus years Phyllis Fierro for allowing him to find the right balance between acting and family time. And he says the secret to their decades-spanning union is very simple.
“It’s the belief through the easy times, through the tough times, whatever we encounter, that we are meant to be together,“he told PEOPLE. “We know that we will overcome all because we believe in that, the foundation of that.”
15of 49Bob Newhart: Make Each Other LaughCourtesy Bob NewhartThe legendary comedian was married to wife Ginnie for 60 years,until her death in 2023. To him, the recipe for a successful relationship was simple, and humor was the key ingredient.“There’s something about laughter and the longevity of a marriage,“he said onCBS Sunday Morning.
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Bob Newhart: Make Each Other Laugh
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The legendary comedian was married to wife Ginnie for 60 years,until her death in 2023. To him, the recipe for a successful relationship was simple, and humor was the key ingredient.
“There’s something about laughter and the longevity of a marriage,“he said onCBS Sunday Morning.
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Angela Bassett: Marry the Right Person
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“Staying together so long, whether in the industry or not, I think the important thing is that you gotta marry the right person. Make sure you’re both looking in the same direction, basically,” she says. “You’re not clones of each other, but you have similar belief systems and, you know, pleasant personalities. Because we all have strengths and weaknesses, and we want to support one another. But I think also recognizing that we have our individual dreams and desires and hopes and ways of doing things.”
“Be easy, as easy as you can be on yourself,” she continued. “And some of us that are hard on ourselves, be easy on yourself and be easy with others.”
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Maury Povich & Connie Chung: It’s All About Respect
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18of 49Jeff Bridges: Celebrate Your DifferencesSusan Geston Bridges and Jeff Bridges.Matt Baron/REX/ShutterstockJeff Bridgestells PEOPLE it was “love at first sight"with his wife of 45 years, Susan, whom he met while filmingThe Rancho Deluxein 1975.The trick to keeping that spark going, nearly half a century later? Mutual respect. “We are quite different as people, and we celebrate that rather than making it drive us apart. I respect her wisdom, and I’m sure the girls do too,” says Bridges. “I’ve really been blessed.”
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Jeff Bridges: Celebrate Your Differences
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Jeff Bridgestells PEOPLE it was “love at first sight"with his wife of 45 years, Susan, whom he met while filmingThe Rancho Deluxein 1975.
The trick to keeping that spark going, nearly half a century later? Mutual respect. “We are quite different as people, and we celebrate that rather than making it drive us apart. I respect her wisdom, and I’m sure the girls do too,” says Bridges. “I’ve really been blessed.”
19of 49Ron Howard: Rely on Good Communication … and a Little LuckJohn Shearer/GettyThe couple has been together since their first date as juniors at John Burroughs High School in Burbank, California: “There was never anybody else” for him after they met, he told PEOPLE.So what’s the secret to their 50-plus-year-love story? “People say, ‘How’d you do it?’ There’s no technique. There’s no tactic other than communication is really important. You have to learn to communicate and have difficult conversations in constructive ways,“the director said.Howard added, “Beyond that, there’s an element of luck because people either grow together or they don’t and I don’t think you can force that.”
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Ron Howard: Rely on Good Communication … and a Little Luck
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The couple has been together since their first date as juniors at John Burroughs High School in Burbank, California: “There was never anybody else” for him after they met, he told PEOPLE.
So what’s the secret to their 50-plus-year-love story? “People say, ‘How’d you do it?’ There’s no technique. There’s no tactic other than communication is really important. You have to learn to communicate and have difficult conversations in constructive ways,“the director said.
Howard added, “Beyond that, there’s an element of luck because people either grow together or they don’t and I don’t think you can force that.”
20of 49Sting: ‘Be Married to Your Best Friend’Kevin MAzur/WireimageAfter nearly 40 years together - 30 of them married! - you better bet that Sting and his wife Trudie Styler have some advice for us all.The singertold PEOPLE, “People say to me, ‘How has it lasted this long?’ I say, ‘Well, it’s kind of a miracle, but we don’t take it for granted.’ ““We’re friends, too,” he continued. “We love each other, but we actually like each other - and that’s an important distinction there. Love is passion and all of that stuff, but actually liking somebody and enjoying someone’s company is something slightly different, and it lasts longer. So you can have both, and I think that’s important. Be married to your best friend.”
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Sting: ‘Be Married to Your Best Friend’
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After nearly 40 years together - 30 of them married! - you better bet that Sting and his wife Trudie Styler have some advice for us all.
The singertold PEOPLE, “People say to me, ‘How has it lasted this long?’ I say, ‘Well, it’s kind of a miracle, but we don’t take it for granted.’ "
“We’re friends, too,” he continued. “We love each other, but we actually like each other - and that’s an important distinction there. Love is passion and all of that stuff, but actually liking somebody and enjoying someone’s company is something slightly different, and it lasts longer. So you can have both, and I think that’s important. Be married to your best friend.”
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Ray and her husband John Cusimano have been married for more than 15 years. How do they do it?
“We actually like each other, have a lot of the same interests, and find it sexy to share bad behavior, like staying up too late, eating the wrong foods, and listening to loud music - rap, opera and any of our 3,000 records - wherever we are,” Ray told PEOPLE.
She added, “We love being together and not acting our age! We don’t trust quiet people.”
There’s one other good piece of advice from Ray: Fight it out and make up quickly.
“When we are mad at each other we scream,” Ray told PEOPLE. “If John is being an a-hole, I tell him, then I feel better. And John does the same thing. We share a great sense of humor which helps.”
At the end of the day, it’s simple: “We yell to get it out, then move on.”
22of 49Harrison Ford: Don’t Talk, Just ‘Nod Your Head’Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart.Steve Granitz/WireImageTheCall of the Wildstar has been married to Calista Flockhart for 12 years in June 2020, andhe has one simple piece of advice. “Don’t talk,” he joked in an interview withParade.“Nod your head.”
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Harrison Ford: Don’t Talk, Just ‘Nod Your Head’
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TheCall of the Wildstar has been married to Calista Flockhart for 12 years in June 2020, andhe has one simple piece of advice. “Don’t talk,” he joked in an interview withParade.“Nod your head.”
23of 49Alec Baldwin: Spend as Much Time Together as PossibleMichael Kovac/GettyBaldwin, who has been married to wife Hilaria since 2012, opened up about niece Hailey Baldwin’s plans to wedJustin Bieberat a September 2018 Toronto International Film Festival event. “People who get married young - and they are very young - I want them to just spend time with each other. Obviously, him, in particular, has this crazy superstar career,“Baldwin toldetalk.“I’m quite a bit older than both of them, but I got married recently, a few years ago. And my wife and I had four kids in four-and-a-half years. We have a lot of little kids,” the father of seven added of his family. “The thing is, all the work I do now is based on my family. There’s movies I got offered where they say, ‘Come leave town for five weeks. And no, we can’t travel your family with you. We don’t have that in the budget.’ And I pass because I don’t want to be away from my family. And I hope they realize that.”
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Alec Baldwin: Spend as Much Time Together as Possible
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Baldwin, who has been married to wife Hilaria since 2012, opened up about niece Hailey Baldwin’s plans to wedJustin Bieberat a September 2018 Toronto International Film Festival event. “People who get married young - and they are very young - I want them to just spend time with each other. Obviously, him, in particular, has this crazy superstar career,“Baldwin toldetalk.
“I’m quite a bit older than both of them, but I got married recently, a few years ago. And my wife and I had four kids in four-and-a-half years. We have a lot of little kids,” the father of seven added of his family. “The thing is, all the work I do now is based on my family. There’s movies I got offered where they say, ‘Come leave town for five weeks. And no, we can’t travel your family with you. We don’t have that in the budget.’ And I pass because I don’t want to be away from my family. And I hope they realize that.”
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Denzel Washington: Know Who’s the Boss
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Now, 40 years and four children later, the Oscar-winning actor shared with PEOPLE his secret to wedded bliss: “Do what your wife tells you and keep your mouth shut.”
25of 49TRACY POLLAN: BELIEVE YOUR PARTNER IS DOING THE BEST THEY CANJake ChessumSitting down with PEOPLE for a cover story, Michael J. Fox and Pollan revealed how they’ve made their love last through sickness, health and three decades in the spotlight.Asked about the key to a long marriage, Pollan said, “Just give each other the benefit of the doubt. He assumes I’m doing the best I can.“As for what Fox advises couples? “Find the best things about you and the best things about life and celebrate them.”
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TRACY POLLAN: BELIEVE YOUR PARTNER IS DOING THE BEST THEY CAN
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Sitting down with PEOPLE for a cover story, Michael J. Fox and Pollan revealed how they’ve made their love last through sickness, health and three decades in the spotlight.
Asked about the key to a long marriage, Pollan said, “Just give each other the benefit of the doubt. He assumes I’m doing the best I can.”
As for what Fox advises couples? “Find the best things about you and the best things about life and celebrate them.”
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MARY STEENBURGEN: CALL EACH OTHER BEAUTIFUL
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“He does tell me every single day of my life I’m beautiful, and I do know a lot of women live without that,” Steenburgen said. “And it does matter, someone just telling you that.”
27of 49CANDACE CAMERON BURE: SHARE THE SAME FAITHCandace Cameron Bure and Valeri Bure.Araya Diaz/Getty Images for Zondervan"The reality is the glue for us is Jesus,” theFuller Housestar told PEOPLE ofthe secret to her and husband Valeri Bure’s longstanding marriage, while attending the 2018 Nickelodeon Kids’ Choice Awards. “It’s the Bible. You know, when there are arguments or we’re compromising and in ways, it’s always like, ‘Well, let’s just go back to the Bible.’ It’s the foundation for us. So it’s not about winning or losing. But doing this journey together.”
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CANDACE CAMERON BURE: SHARE THE SAME FAITH
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“The reality is the glue for us is Jesus,” theFuller Housestar told PEOPLE ofthe secret to her and husband Valeri Bure’s longstanding marriage, while attending the 2018 Nickelodeon Kids’ Choice Awards. “It’s the Bible. You know, when there are arguments or we’re compromising and in ways, it’s always like, ‘Well, let’s just go back to the Bible.’ It’s the foundation for us. So it’s not about winning or losing. But doing this journey together.”
28of 49LISA RINNA: IT’S OKAY IF YOU HAVE NOTHING IN COMMONJim Spellman/WireImageAppearing onWatch What Happens Live withAndy Cohen, theReal Housewives of Beverly Hillsstaropened up about her relationship with Harry Hamlin- and how they’ve kept the spark alive over the course of their 25-year marriage.“I don’t really know. I really don’t know the answer,” she admitted. “I think that we are complete opposites. And I mean, we have nothing in common!““You know what you have in common that wildly comes across?” chimed in hostAndy Cohen. “You are crazy about each other.” The reality star couldn’t help but agree with Cohen. “We are,” said Rinna. “We are crazy about each other, and you can’t create that, you can’t make it - it either is, or it isn’t.”
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LISA RINNA: IT’S OKAY IF YOU HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON
Appearing onWatch What Happens Live withAndy Cohen, theReal Housewives of Beverly Hillsstaropened up about her relationship with Harry Hamlin- and how they’ve kept the spark alive over the course of their 25-year marriage.
“I don’t really know. I really don’t know the answer,” she admitted. “I think that we are complete opposites. And I mean, we have nothing in common!”
“You know what you have in common that wildly comes across?” chimed in hostAndy Cohen. “You are crazy about each other.” The reality star couldn’t help but agree with Cohen. “We are,” said Rinna. “We are crazy about each other, and you can’t create that, you can’t make it - it either is, or it isn’t.”
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ASHLEY GRAHAM: PLAY ‘THE NICE GAME’
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30of 49SAM ROCKWELL: YOU NEED TWO THINGSThe couple of more than 10 years hit the red carpet at the 2018 Screen Actors Guild Awards, where Rockwell shared thesecret to his and longtime love Leslie Bibb’s longstanding relationship. “Communication and great sex,” he said.
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SAM ROCKWELL: YOU NEED TWO THINGS
The couple of more than 10 years hit the red carpet at the 2018 Screen Actors Guild Awards, where Rockwell shared thesecret to his and longtime love Leslie Bibb’s longstanding relationship. “Communication and great sex,” he said.
31of 49FAITH HILL: ‘WE DO ACTUALLY LIKE ONE ANOTHER’Frazer Harrison/GettyDuringan appearance onTodayto promote their new collaborative album The Rest Of Our Life, when asked what made their relationship work so well, McGraw immediately pointed at his wife of 25 years before saying, “Well, she tolerates a lot, I think that’s probably the main reason.““You tolerate a lot too. I’m not the easiest person,” Hill added, before admitting that one of the biggest secrets might just be that, “We do actually like one another.”
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FAITH HILL: ‘WE DO ACTUALLY LIKE ONE ANOTHER’
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Duringan appearance onTodayto promote their new collaborative album The Rest Of Our Life, when asked what made their relationship work so well, McGraw immediately pointed at his wife of 25 years before saying, “Well, she tolerates a lot, I think that’s probably the main reason.”
“You tolerate a lot too. I’m not the easiest person,” Hill added, before admitting that one of the biggest secrets might just be that, “We do actually like one another.”
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JAIME CAMIL: APPRECIATE EACH OTHER’S BEAUTY
Although yes, it’s what’s on the inside that really counts, theJane the Virginactor can’t help but celebrate his wife, Heidi Balvanera’s physical beauty. “It happens that I’m in love with my wife. I like my wife very much and I think she’s super hot, the hottest girl in the world. So I think that’s it,“Camil told PEOPLEwhen asked of the couple’s secret to a happy marriage, joking: “I should not say anymore because then I’m going to go a little triple X here.”
He added: “I love her and she is a wonderful woman, she is a brilliant mother. She is the foundation of the family. I’m very lucky to have found that.”
33of 49SUZANNE SOMERS: DON’T STOP THE ROMANCEAxelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagicThe actress and husband Alan Hamel have been together for 50 years, so the couple knows a thing or two about the formula for asuccessful relationship. In her book,Two’s Company: A Fifty-Year Romance with Lessons Learned in Love, Life & Business,Somers not only reveals she and Hamel have sex twice a day, but also shares her advice for couples who want to spice up their relationship.“Listen to one another, give each other a lot of attention, keep it exciting, date,” she says. “My marriage is very romantic. … We might sit here and have a tequila. … We dance, I cook, we sit out and watch the moonlight on the ocean.”
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SUZANNE SOMERS: DON’T STOP THE ROMANCE
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The actress and husband Alan Hamel have been together for 50 years, so the couple knows a thing or two about the formula for asuccessful relationship. In her book,Two’s Company: A Fifty-Year Romance with Lessons Learned in Love, Life & Business,Somers not only reveals she and Hamel have sex twice a day, but also shares her advice for couples who want to spice up their relationship.“Listen to one another, give each other a lot of attention, keep it exciting, date,” she says. “My marriage is very romantic. … We might sit here and have a tequila. … We dance, I cook, we sit out and watch the moonlight on the ocean.”
34of 49BLAKE LIVELY: ‘WE DON’T WORK AT THE SAME TIME’Dimitrios Kambouris/GettyWhen it comes to their hectic work schedules, Lively and husband Ryan Reynolds make sure they don’t let their projectsget in the way of their relationship. “My husband and I don’t work at the same time, so we all go together as a family,” she told PEOPLE. “If we’re away as a family, it’s never more than for a day. We stay together.”
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BLAKE LIVELY: ‘WE DON’T WORK AT THE SAME TIME’
When it comes to their hectic work schedules, Lively and husband Ryan Reynolds make sure they don’t let their projectsget in the way of their relationship. “My husband and I don’t work at the same time, so we all go together as a family,” she told PEOPLE. “If we’re away as a family, it’s never more than for a day. We stay together.”
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CHRIS HEMSWORTH: DATE NIGHT IS A MUST - NO MATTER HOW TIRED YOU ARE
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Sure, life gets in the way sometimes, but theThoractor and wife Elsa Pataky, who share three kids together, always make time for date nights.
36of 49JUDITH LIGHT: CONSIDER A LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPBruce Glikas/FilmMagicFor years after tying the knot, Light - who currently lives in New York - and her husband of 35-plus years, Robert Desiderio - who resides in California -have navigated a long-distance marriage. “It’s been the best,” she told PEOPLE. “I highly recommend it. He loves California, and I would never ask him to leave there and he would never ask me to leave here.““Now, mind you, I go back and I shootTransparentand I’m there four or five months, so I’m there all the time, so then when I’m done there, I come back here and he’s flying here today, so we’re going to be together for a few days and then I’ll go back to California, so it really is this kind of supportive … we’re on each other’s team,” shared Light.
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JUDITH LIGHT: CONSIDER A LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP
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For years after tying the knot, Light - who currently lives in New York - and her husband of 35-plus years, Robert Desiderio - who resides in California -have navigated a long-distance marriage. “It’s been the best,” she told PEOPLE. “I highly recommend it. He loves California, and I would never ask him to leave there and he would never ask me to leave here.”
“Now, mind you, I go back and I shootTransparentand I’m there four or five months, so I’m there all the time, so then when I’m done there, I come back here and he’s flying here today, so we’re going to be together for a few days and then I’ll go back to California, so it really is this kind of supportive … we’re on each other’s team,” shared Light.
37of 49JESSIE JAMES DECKER: NEVER STOP FLIRTING WITH EACH OTHERKevin Mazur/Getty"Besides being super attracted to each other, I think there’s a sense of flirting with each other and still keeping that spice alive,” the country croonershared of her relationshipwith husband Eric Decker. “I think women sometimes stop flirting with their husbands and you can’t. Men want to want feel good - they want to feel like their women love them. When they come home from work, don’t start nagging them with questions. Go up to them and give them a big kiss and ask them how their day was.”
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JESSIE JAMES DECKER: NEVER STOP FLIRTING WITH EACH OTHER
“Besides being super attracted to each other, I think there’s a sense of flirting with each other and still keeping that spice alive,” the country croonershared of her relationshipwith husband Eric Decker. “I think women sometimes stop flirting with their husbands and you can’t. Men want to want feel good - they want to feel like their women love them. When they come home from work, don’t start nagging them with questions. Go up to them and give them a big kiss and ask them how their day was.”
38of 49JESSICA BIEL: SHARE THE SAME VALUESKevin Mazur/Getty ImagesFor the actress, bonding over shared beliefs and interests with husbandJustin Timberlakeis of utmost importance. “We have similar values; we believe in loyalty, honesty,” she revealed to Marie Claire. “We like to have fun. We like a lot of the same things.““Also, in the business, we’re all very career-oriented, and you have to be a little selfish. I understand that about my peers - about being focused and driven - and if you can find that and someone who shares the same values as you, it’s like: Score!”
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JESSICA BIEL: SHARE THE SAME VALUES
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For the actress, bonding over shared beliefs and interests with husbandJustin Timberlakeis of utmost importance. “We have similar values; we believe in loyalty, honesty,” she revealed to Marie Claire. “We like to have fun. We like a lot of the same things.”
“Also, in the business, we’re all very career-oriented, and you have to be a little selfish. I understand that about my peers - about being focused and driven - and if you can find that and someone who shares the same values as you, it’s like: Score!”
39of 49ALICIA KEYS: PLAN SURPRISE DATES FOR ONE ANOTHERAngela Weiss/AFP/Getty"One of us plans [a date] and the other has no idea where we are going,” Keys told PEOPLE onhow she and husband Swizz Beatz keep their union strong. “We’ve found some undiscovered gems and moments to take hikes or walks or just discover new things about life and each other. Those are my favorite times.”
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ALICIA KEYS: PLAN SURPRISE DATES FOR ONE ANOTHER
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“One of us plans [a date] and the other has no idea where we are going,” Keys told PEOPLE onhow she and husband Swizz Beatz keep their union strong. “We’ve found some undiscovered gems and moments to take hikes or walks or just discover new things about life and each other. Those are my favorite times.”
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JOANNA GAINES: STICK TO WEEKLY RITUALS
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41of 49WILL SMITH: EXPECT THE HARD WORKGregg DeGuire/WireImageMarriage isn’t easy — just ask the actor and his wife, Jada Pinkett Smith, who’ve been married for more than a decade. “We’ve been asking ourselves [what’s the secret to marriage] and really at the end of the day it’s just not quitting,” theCollateral Beautystar toldEntertainment Tonight.“If there is a secret I would say it is that we never went into working on our relationship,” he explained. “We only ever worked on ourselves individually. And then presented ourselves to one another better than we were previously.”
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WILL SMITH: EXPECT THE HARD WORK
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Marriage isn’t easy — just ask the actor and his wife, Jada Pinkett Smith, who’ve been married for more than a decade. “We’ve been asking ourselves [what’s the secret to marriage] and really at the end of the day it’s just not quitting,” theCollateral Beautystar toldEntertainment Tonight.
“If there is a secret I would say it is that we never went into working on our relationship,” he explained. “We only ever worked on ourselves individually. And then presented ourselves to one another better than we were previously.”
42of 49SALMA HAYEK: DITCH YOUR SOCIAL CALENDARDave Benett/GettyFor Hayek and husband François-Henri Pinault, foregoing extra social events is the key to a successful relationship. “I married the right guy,” she told reporters atHarper’s BAZAAR’s 150 Most Fashionable Women celebration. “That is probably the most important thing. We support each other in everything we do. We want the other one to strive. Makes you happy when the other one strives. And you know what,we don’t have a very strong social life, because we really like to spend time together. So we do spend a lot of quality time together.”
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SALMA HAYEK: DITCH YOUR SOCIAL CALENDAR
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For Hayek and husband François-Henri Pinault, foregoing extra social events is the key to a successful relationship. “I married the right guy,” she told reporters atHarper’s BAZAAR’s 150 Most Fashionable Women celebration. “That is probably the most important thing. We support each other in everything we do. We want the other one to strive. Makes you happy when the other one strives. And you know what,we don’t have a very strong social life, because we really like to spend time together. So we do spend a lot of quality time together.”
43of 49FREDDIE PRINZE JR.: ESTABLISH A SOLID FRIENDSHIPCourtesy Sarah Michelle Gellar"We were just friends. That’s one of the reasons I think our relationship has always been so good,” Prinze Jr. revealed toE! Newsofhis pre-marriage dynamic with wife Sarah Michelle Gellar. “We were just friends for a good two years before we ever went on a date. She knew what kind of guy I was. She knew what my morals were, what my priorities were and vice versa. We already kind of knew all the faults in the other person.“He added: “We ended up being the perfect balance. But it didn’t happen until years after and there was a solid foundation built, and that’s probably the main reason why we’ve always been cool and groovy.”
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FREDDIE PRINZE JR.: ESTABLISH A SOLID FRIENDSHIP
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“We were just friends. That’s one of the reasons I think our relationship has always been so good,” Prinze Jr. revealed toE! Newsofhis pre-marriage dynamic with wife Sarah Michelle Gellar. “We were just friends for a good two years before we ever went on a date. She knew what kind of guy I was. She knew what my morals were, what my priorities were and vice versa. We already kind of knew all the faults in the other person.”
He added: “We ended up being the perfect balance. But it didn’t happen until years after and there was a solid foundation built, and that’s probably the main reason why we’ve always been cool and groovy.”
44of 49LEANN RIMES: SHOW SOME RESPECTFabiano Silva/GettyRimes and husband Eddie Cibrian’s key to a happy relationshipmay seem pretty straightforward, but the performer stressed its importance during an interview with PEOPLE. “We respect each other; respect is a big deal, and once you lose that, you’ve kind of lost everything,” the country crooner revealed. “He’s a wonderful father and a really good man. He’s kind to me, and I reciprocate.”
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LEANN RIMES: SHOW SOME RESPECT
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Rimes and husband Eddie Cibrian’s key to a happy relationshipmay seem pretty straightforward, but the performer stressed its importance during an interview with PEOPLE. “We respect each other; respect is a big deal, and once you lose that, you’ve kind of lost everything,” the country crooner revealed. “He’s a wonderful father and a really good man. He’s kind to me, and I reciprocate.”
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KRISTEN BELL: CONSIDER THERAPY
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46of 49DAVID BECKHAM: TRUST EACH OTHER’S JUDGMENTAnthony Harvey/GettyThe former athlete and wife Victoria Beckham wed in 1999 and have been together ever since. As for the secret to their successful relationship? “We’ve been together for 18 years, we’ve been married for 16 years,” the father of fourtold ABC Newsin 2015. “So you trust each other’s judgment. I think that has worked for us.”
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DAVID BECKHAM: TRUST EACH OTHER’S JUDGMENT
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The former athlete and wife Victoria Beckham wed in 1999 and have been together ever since. As for the secret to their successful relationship? “We’ve been together for 18 years, we’ve been married for 16 years,” the father of fourtold ABC Newsin 2015. “So you trust each other’s judgment. I think that has worked for us.”
47of 49NICOLE KIDMAN: LIKE EACH OTHERKevin Mazur/ACMA2017/GettyWhen it comes to marriage, falling in love is a given - but maintaining the spark comes down to something deeper for Kidman and husband Keith Urban. “Just love each other, lavish each other with love,” Kidman shared with PEOPLE of the secret to her happy relationship with her singer-husband. “Also we just happen to like each other too. That works.”
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NICOLE KIDMAN: LIKE EACH OTHER
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When it comes to marriage, falling in love is a given - but maintaining the spark comes down to something deeper for Kidman and husband Keith Urban. “Just love each other, lavish each other with love,” Kidman shared with PEOPLE of the secret to her happy relationship with her singer-husband. “Also we just happen to like each other too. That works.”
48of 49SARAH JESSICA PARKER: KEEP THINGS BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOUGilbert Carrasquillo/FilmMagicTheSex and the Citystar and her husband, Matthew Broderick, who’ve been married for 25 years, attribute their marital success to privacy. “The secret is, we don’t discuss it. To reporters or anybody else. That’s it!“the actress told theHuffington Post. “We don’t hold it up as an example and we don’t air our dirty laundry.”
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SARAH JESSICA PARKER: KEEP THINGS BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU
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TheSex and the Citystar and her husband, Matthew Broderick, who’ve been married for 25 years, attribute their marital success to privacy. “The secret is, we don’t discuss it. To reporters or anybody else. That’s it!“the actress told theHuffington Post. “We don’t hold it up as an example and we don’t air our dirty laundry.”
49of 49AARON PAUL: ALWAYS COMMUNICATEBarry King/Getty ImagesWe’ve heard it time and time again: communication is the key to a healthy relationship - and it remainsThe Pathstar and wife Lauren’s No. 1 piece of advice. “People get in fights because they don’t communicate, because you don’t want to hurt the other person,“he toldELLE. “If you do want to hurt the other person, then shame on you - you’re an a–hole. My wife and I do not argue. We communicate. We talk. But we’ve never fought in our entire relationship.”
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AARON PAUL: ALWAYS COMMUNICATE
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We’ve heard it time and time again: communication is the key to a healthy relationship - and it remainsThe Pathstar and wife Lauren’s No. 1 piece of advice. “People get in fights because they don’t communicate, because you don’t want to hurt the other person,“he toldELLE. “If you do want to hurt the other person, then shame on you - you’re an a–hole. My wife and I do not argue. We communicate. We talk. But we’ve never fought in our entire relationship.”
source: people.com
